Pro-WHAT?!?!?!
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beandelphikiPro-Life...
Give me a break.
[Before I get going on this rant, allow me one caveat; I don't support abortion as a form of BIRTH CONTROL. Thank you.]
So, yeah, let's see...
Whenever I get into an argument with someone about abortion in rl, they usually end up asking me how I feel about the idea that I could have been aborted. (RL arguments go so much faster, though.) I thought I'd address that first.
My mother had me when she was 19 years old. I'm sure a least a couple of people told me to abort her. Yup, I could have been aborted. I might not be here right now! What a concept to contemplate!
I mean, think about it...if I had been aborted:
I wouldn't have lived hand-to-mouth in a little roach-infested white-trash apartment.
I wouldn't have had abusive parents.
I wouldn't have been a complete social outcast for the first 9 years of my schooling.
I wouldn't have been molested.
I would never have had to be cold in the winter when we couldn't afford warmer clothes.
I would never have attended a crappy lower-end school.
I wouldn't have ever been depressed, or dropped out.
I wouldn't be dealing with gender issues.
How lucky I am to be alive!
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I should have been aborted. I've said that many a time to people in rl, and I'll keep right on saying it. I stand by that firmly.
As for abortion, I would abort any kid I got pregnant with, and I have many, many reasons.
Reason 1 - Adoption is a Crapshoot
Pretty plain and simple, right? I would not send a kid off to some stranger, and never know what was happening in their lives, or if they were suffering the same abuse I did.
I also would not trust open adoption. I've seen my parents convince other adults they are saints. So fuck that.
Reason 2 - Various Trans Issues
I would never, ever, under any circumstances, have vaginal sex with a man. Therefore, in order to get pregnant, I would have to be raped.
So,
1) I don't consider any child to come from that to be my responsibility.
2) I don't care about any "right to life." That's fucking bullshit. I have a right not to be violated, as does everyone.
I will not be pregnant and live as a pregnant woman. I made this decision two years ago, and I'll never go back on it.
I will never risk birthing hips. Period.
Someone called this selfish; well, guess what? What's a human fetus? A parasite, baby. Takes, but doesn't give. I don't need no parasites.
...Selfish? It would destroy me, mentally, to carry a child. How the fuck is it selfish to know your limits and follow them? Those are the actions of a wise man.
...And cowardly? (Second charge.) Christ...see above.
Reason 3 - Financial Concerns
My parents were children when they had me. They had no money. As I said before, we live with roaches in our food. I'm not trying to play this up, it's just a fact. All I heard throughout my childhood was an endless litany of, "we can't afford it"s.
When and if I'm a parent, I will NEVER put my child through that. I want my kid to have opportunities. To learn to play a musical instrument if they want. Take lessons in something. Play sports - and some are expensive.
I want to send my kids to a good school. I want them to have warm clothes when they need it. And I will not compromise.
...I've said it once; I'll say it again. Better a short, painless death than a long miserable life.
Over, out.
Give me a break.
[Before I get going on this rant, allow me one caveat; I don't support abortion as a form of BIRTH CONTROL. Thank you.]
So, yeah, let's see...
Whenever I get into an argument with someone about abortion in rl, they usually end up asking me how I feel about the idea that I could have been aborted. (RL arguments go so much faster, though.) I thought I'd address that first.
My mother had me when she was 19 years old. I'm sure a least a couple of people told me to abort her. Yup, I could have been aborted. I might not be here right now! What a concept to contemplate!
I mean, think about it...if I had been aborted:
I wouldn't have lived hand-to-mouth in a little roach-infested white-trash apartment.
I wouldn't have had abusive parents.
I wouldn't have been a complete social outcast for the first 9 years of my schooling.
I wouldn't have been molested.
I would never have had to be cold in the winter when we couldn't afford warmer clothes.
I would never have attended a crappy lower-end school.
I wouldn't have ever been depressed, or dropped out.
I wouldn't be dealing with gender issues.
How lucky I am to be alive!
[/sarcasm]
I should have been aborted. I've said that many a time to people in rl, and I'll keep right on saying it. I stand by that firmly.
As for abortion, I would abort any kid I got pregnant with, and I have many, many reasons.
Reason 1 - Adoption is a Crapshoot
Pretty plain and simple, right? I would not send a kid off to some stranger, and never know what was happening in their lives, or if they were suffering the same abuse I did.
I also would not trust open adoption. I've seen my parents convince other adults they are saints. So fuck that.
Reason 2 - Various Trans Issues
I would never, ever, under any circumstances, have vaginal sex with a man. Therefore, in order to get pregnant, I would have to be raped.
So,
1) I don't consider any child to come from that to be my responsibility.
2) I don't care about any "right to life." That's fucking bullshit. I have a right not to be violated, as does everyone.
I will not be pregnant and live as a pregnant woman. I made this decision two years ago, and I'll never go back on it.
I will never risk birthing hips. Period.
Someone called this selfish; well, guess what? What's a human fetus? A parasite, baby. Takes, but doesn't give. I don't need no parasites.
...Selfish? It would destroy me, mentally, to carry a child. How the fuck is it selfish to know your limits and follow them? Those are the actions of a wise man.
...And cowardly? (Second charge.) Christ...see above.
Reason 3 - Financial Concerns
My parents were children when they had me. They had no money. As I said before, we live with roaches in our food. I'm not trying to play this up, it's just a fact. All I heard throughout my childhood was an endless litany of, "we can't afford it"s.
When and if I'm a parent, I will NEVER put my child through that. I want my kid to have opportunities. To learn to play a musical instrument if they want. Take lessons in something. Play sports - and some are expensive.
I want to send my kids to a good school. I want them to have warm clothes when they need it. And I will not compromise.
...I've said it once; I'll say it again. Better a short, painless death than a long miserable life.
Over, out.
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Date: 2002-10-10 04:07 am (UTC)My birth mom got pregnant at 16. My birth father abandoned her, and her parents refused to help. This was in 1974. So she put me up for adoption.
My adoptive family...not good. Like you, I was molested (by a friend of the family), was seriously depressed (6 suicide attempts), etc.
I met my birth family recently, my mother and her brother and his family... and dammit, I would've fit *in* there. They would have understood me.... but I can never tell them that...
So. In 1994, I was raped. A month later, I discovered I was pregnant... 50/50 chance of the sperm donor being either the rapist or my then-boyfriend.
I kept the baby. Why? Because I'd had three miscarriages and didn't know if I could ever successfully have a baby, and because I figured that all things have a reason, and because she already felt like a *person* to me. And yes, this is the famous Elayna.
Keep in mind, I'm *not* anti-abortion; some of my best friends (yeah, I know, but it's true!) have had abortions. And for them, it was the right thing to do. Just thought I'd share my perspective...