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Okay, I totally should NOT have replied to ravelling a third time. Have I got a temper! (I still manged to take out the parts where I called her a cracker and shit. I'm still trying to make myself understood somewhat, and get my point across without dissolving into nothing but name-calling, but yeah... As I mentioned to i_dreamed_i_was, my anger is getting in the way of saying anything useful to this girl.)

That was just dumb, and I'm feeling that, "oh shit" moment right after you've hit "post" on something guaranteed to cause at least a little trouble, and it's too late to take it back.

But you know, getting told I "don't understand" her pasty bullshit is like having a red flag waved in my face. I grew up in a family of such middle-class intellectual snobbery, it's like all my hot buttons right there.

And right after I told her not to pull that shit! It's like she saw this:

For starters, why is it that when white people are criticized, we assume that the other person MISUNDERSTOOD US? (Don't try to answer that, please.)

Just because someone thinks you are WRONG does not mean you have been misunderstood. Do you see how messed up that is? You are not always right.


...and all she actually READ was:

when white people are criticized, other person MISUNDERSTOOD US. someone thinks you are WRONG does mean you have been misunderstood. Do you see how messed up that is? You are always right.

This is the only explanation I can think of that she would read, claim to understand, and respond in a fashion that indicates that what she got out of my post was exactly the OPPOSITE of what I was trying to say.


P.S. Will get back to comments later, not ignoring anyone. Just... I really need to go to bed.

Oh, and...

Ganked this from blackfolk, queer_rage, and feminist (in case anyone wanted to keep track of any discussions, but I think they're likely to die).

Transgendered evacuee jailed for using the women's showers.

Okay, I'm a little torn. I understand the issues around having a penis-bodied person of ANY gender in a woman's shower... But did they have to lock her up, instead of coming up with a solution once they realized she was trans?

No, don't answer that. *hate*

This is especially upsetting and poignant to me today...I'm having a Bad Bathroom Day, it just happens sometimes.