Straight people are not, not, NOT...
Nov. 3rd, 2002 05:28 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
beandelphikiListen up, people, because I have something to say. And I'm only going to say it once.
Straight people are not the enemy. Repeat, straight people are NOT the enemy. (Okay, twice.)
It's so frustrating to see people say things like, "Straight people are such jerks!" C'mon, that's not accurate! I know plenty of wonderful straight people, and I've known a disturbing number of gay people who were total jerks...bigots...real assholes.
Straight people are jerks more often, and they make the most mistakes when it comes to "us"; gee, let's not even factor in that there are MORE straight people to be jerks and make mistakes!
And the most stupid thing of all; when homophobic gay people in the past have THEIR mistakes blamed on straight people. No. I don't think so. Let's all consider that we have a responsibility for our actions.
There have been people throughout time, gay and straight, who have been neutral to, or supportive of, GLBT people. It is NOT fair to say that some gay people were jerks to their own community BECAUSE of straights. They made a decision, the same as every person who made a decision to risk themselves for what was right. It is not fair to suggest that gays are beyond reproach, and what some have done wrong isn't their fault.
If you do something morally wrong to your people, that is NOT my fault. It is not the fault of my beautiful straight friends. It is not the fault of my straight family. We may be helping, unintentionally or not, to create societal pressures that are difficult to deal with - but we are not making your decisions for you.
If, simply by virtue of being gay, these people were as courageous and heroic as you think that makes someone...
....they would have made better decisions.
Straight people are not the enemy. Repeat, straight people are NOT the enemy. (Okay, twice.)
It's so frustrating to see people say things like, "Straight people are such jerks!" C'mon, that's not accurate! I know plenty of wonderful straight people, and I've known a disturbing number of gay people who were total jerks...bigots...real assholes.
Straight people are jerks more often, and they make the most mistakes when it comes to "us"; gee, let's not even factor in that there are MORE straight people to be jerks and make mistakes!
And the most stupid thing of all; when homophobic gay people in the past have THEIR mistakes blamed on straight people. No. I don't think so. Let's all consider that we have a responsibility for our actions.
There have been people throughout time, gay and straight, who have been neutral to, or supportive of, GLBT people. It is NOT fair to say that some gay people were jerks to their own community BECAUSE of straights. They made a decision, the same as every person who made a decision to risk themselves for what was right. It is not fair to suggest that gays are beyond reproach, and what some have done wrong isn't their fault.
If you do something morally wrong to your people, that is NOT my fault. It is not the fault of my beautiful straight friends. It is not the fault of my straight family. We may be helping, unintentionally or not, to create societal pressures that are difficult to deal with - but we are not making your decisions for you.
If, simply by virtue of being gay, these people were as courageous and heroic as you think that makes someone...
....they would have made better decisions.
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Date: 2002-11-03 04:56 pm (UTC)i have a girlfriend, but that doesn't make me any different. just beause i'm straight doesn't make me not sympathetic towards gays. here's my vision of it. If you are open enough to accept it about yourself, if you have the strength of courage and of will to believe in what you want, regardless of what other people see and deem, then you should do whatever the hell you want. Forget statistics, forget pressure, forget other people, focus on what you want, and in doing so, it will come to pass.
It's sad that someone has to blame someone else. But i guess that's just human nature for you.
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Date: 2002-11-03 05:20 pm (UTC)gslbtqa
Date: 2002-11-03 05:40 pm (UTC)Too often, queer people take delight in "teasing" straight people, or blaming them for the ills of their lives. I don't think stereotyping is useful in any situation. It hurts the people you stereotype, and it limits the number of quality relationships you could have if you had kept an open mind.
Oh.. and bravo!! to your logic. ...they would have made better decisions.
Awesome. QED.
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Date: 2002-11-03 09:23 pm (UTC)right now, it is pondering this:
We may be helping, unintentionally or not, to create societal pressures that are difficult to deal with - but we are not making your decisions for you
primarily in the realm of unintentional social pressures... what that looks like, what dynamics affect it, what possibilities do or don't exist for a majority or a group of people who hold more power to exist without, by nature of being, exerting social pressure...
my brain shall write a journal entry someday.
Re: gslbtqa
Date: 2002-11-03 09:31 pm (UTC)Yes, I'm quite annoyed by the teasing...I think I mentioned somewhere before that I hate it when some gay people treat hets like they are all a) evil; b) really, really stupid; c) personal pets; or d) any combination of the above.
I didn't even know this was something that happened until I got online...I found some really disturbing stuff a while back.
I found a site for "true queers." Picture that. They didn't like straights ("those fucking breeder assholes!") and they weren't too fond of bisexuals, for that matter. There was an advice column where a guy wrote in about his bi boyfriend...
They had arranged that it was okay for this guy to have a girlfriend, as well. A risky arrangement sometimes, I think, but I've seen it work out.
But the boyfriend didn't like the girlfriend, and he hated getting "breeder cooties," so he requested info on how to annoy her so much she'd dump his boyfriend. Gah!
...Yeah, now I'm kinda rambling.
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Date: 2002-11-03 09:32 pm (UTC)...understand what you are saynig. :P
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Date: 2002-11-03 09:33 pm (UTC)Re: gslbtqa
Date: 2002-11-03 09:50 pm (UTC)oh.. the first was kinda a joke... gay straight lesbian bi trans queer association. :)
the other... QED is from latin, Quod Erat Demonstrandum.. (which was to be proven) and is often used at the end of a proof or a scathing bit of logic to show the person that they have, indeed, finished the argument. QED, and other words
I just meant that you had made such a great point, that no one could argue against it further. Go you!
Re: gslbtqa
Date: 2002-11-03 09:55 pm (UTC)Re: gslbtqa
Date: 2002-11-03 10:00 pm (UTC)