Random details of revealing emails

[beandelphiki]

So in Stagecraft today (last day of classes before exams, wheeee! My whole psych class HATES me because I finished the last exam in ten minutes, wheee!) David threw me a little note.

"I emailed Frank."

I threw a note back inquiring as to what he'd emailed Frank about. He refused to tell me, insisting that I wouldn't understand and I'd just make fun of him. And because he didn't think anyone he knows could really help, he decided to email Frank for an unbiased opinion on his problem. (??? Nutty kid. He's been telling me for days he's sure Frank hates him, so he emails my bf for an "unbiased opinion?" Umokay.) Of course, I know perfectly well he wanted to talk about it, or he never would have thrown me that note.

It didn't come out until we went up to the computer lab at lunch. For some reason, the only way we can REALLY talk is when we're sitting beside each other, emailing back and forth. Face-to-face we can rarely say anything that isn't barbed and sardonic.

He told me he has boy problems and offered to send me a copy of the email he sent Frank, edited. I insisted on an unedited version, and got it...apparently he wanted to edit out the fact that his new boy toy is 16. Mmm-hmm. And he didn't want me to know this for fear of what I'd say.

I honestly DON'T have a problem with it, as long as his boyfriend can handle the age difference, and I wrote him back to tell him that the only reason I bothered him before was because he's been bothering me about FRANK'S age.

He told me that he wished I wouldn't...

That what other people say bothers him a lot...

That he ended his relationship with his last boyfriend (age 15) because of what people said to him about it...

...And I wrote back and demanded, then, WHY would he try to do the same thing to ME...and didn't get an answer.

I asked him what he saw in younger guys and got back the response..."i don't know, they just seem attracted to me." Mmm-hmm.

I tried again: "That doesn't mean *you* have to date *them.* What do you see in younger guys?"

"they're cute, they're adorable, they're dependent... i dont' know..."

My attenna rose. "Dependent?" "well, it's nice to be the... well, husband in the relationship."

And that was as far as we got.

Verrrrry interesting. I think I'll try getting an answer out of him on the breaking-up-me-and-Frank issue.

We did talk about his problem...the relationship is long distance, and he's worried that the kid gets in trouble from staying on the phone too long, so every time he doesn't get a phone call when he's been told he'll get one, he freaks out.

I honestly don't know what to say about that except...maybe...that he should talk to the kid's parents. Or something.

Eh. Exam at 8 tomorrow. Oh, joys.

MY ROOM IS CLEAN!!! w00t! It's so weird to be able to walk the length of my room without tripping over something.

When I come home from school tomorrow, it'll be freshly painted white. Weird thought.

Comments

[poopsmoothie.livejournal.com]

I've had an LDR with someone who's fifteen years older than me for two years, now, and was friends with him for two years before THAT. Until the last month or so, I was a minor. If he'd talked to my parents, the shit would have hit the fan. :) Yes, the age difference was greater in my case, etc. etc. But I still don't think it's generally a good idea for a young gay guy to tell the parents of a minor he's with LD about it.

Just my two cents.

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

You know...that's a good point. Somehow, I just didn't think of that.

In which case, maybe he'd better forget it. Eh.

[siegeengine.livejournal.com]

I haven't emailed him back on that, because of the reasons you've cited. I'm glad he told you about it, though. Have been sitting on that email for a day and a half, not sure what to do with it.

*shrugs*

I still don't, honestly. I mean... I don't really know him... how can I give him advice??
*hugs*

*luck* for your exams and
*whee!!* for your room! Take pics!!
send pics!!
;)))

*smooch*
me

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

I'm sowwy...it's gonna be painted today, I can't send you a pic of what the walls looked like.

Er....at least I think that's what you meant. Hard to tell. *confuzzled* I think I'm just kind of out of it... I statyed up too late to study.

I think you might just email him to say you don't really understand his situation, so you don't feel comfortable giving advice.

*hugs*

[siegeengine.livejournal.com]

oh... it's ok.
I guess I will email him back.
Don't want to leave him hanging.
He did sound kind of desperate for advice, though...
*confused by his sudden acceptance of me as a confidante*

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

*confused too* It's positively weird.

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[siegeengine.livejournal.com]

hehe ;)
*shrugs*

*tries to figure out how to best use my new found status*

;)