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[beandelphiki]

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RETROSPECTIVE BEHAVIOUR CHECKLIST FOR PARENTS

CHILD Daniel W*********
PARENT Father (Mike W*********)
DATE Nov. 14, 2005

BEHAVIOURS

[Inattentive symptoms]

1. failed to give close attention to detail and/or made careless mistakes in schoolwork, chores, or other activities

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

2. had difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or other activities

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

3. did not seem to listen when spoken to directly

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

4. failed to follow through on instructions, finish schoolwork or tasks, and/or complete activities after starting them

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

5. had difficulty organizing tasks and activities

VERY OFTEN/OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

6. avoided, disliked or was reluctant to engage in tasks that required sustained mental effort or close concentration (such as schoolwork or homework)

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

-math homework seemed to be a problem, possibly because of the perception he had that he was not good at it
-reluctant to read over user manuals for electronics (camera, calculator)

7. lost things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g. keys, books, school assignments, tools, pencils)

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

8. was easily distracted

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

9. was forgetful in daily activities

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

almost always neglected to empty litterbox even when this was assigned as a regular chore


[Hyperactive/Impulsive symptoms]

1. fidgeted with hands and feet; squirmed in seat

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

2. left seat in classroom or in other situations where remaining seated was expected

VERY OFTEN/OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

3. appeared physically restless

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

4. had difficulty engaging in leisure activities quietly

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

enjoyed reading books - quiet activity

5. was often "on the go" or acted as if "driven by a motor"

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

enjoyed reading books which was a pretty quiet activity

6. talked excessively

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

7. blurted out answers before questions had been completed

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

8. had difficulty waiting his/her turn (was impatient)

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

9. interrupted or intruded on others (e.g. butted in conversations or games)

VERY OFTEN - OFTEN - SOMETIMES - RARELY

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Not for the first time, I feel like my father doesn't know who I am at all.

Comments

[ratkrycek.livejournal.com]

I know the feeling, my friend; I know the feeling.

[haleth.livejournal.com]

Well. He was paying attention, wasn't he? :-P

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

Thanks. That means a lot.

*headshakes* This is the guy who yelled at me when I was 16 because I didn't have job. I broke down and bawled and tried to explain that I wanted a job, I just didn't think I was capable of flipping burgers, I was too stupid.

He spent the intervening years until I got a job (at 20) telling me that I needed to get over the idea that I was "too good" for fast food.


You've had similar situations with your family? I just don't get how people can live together for so long, and not "see" each other at all.

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

*ell-oh-ells*

That's what my mother said! Actually, she was really peeved with his answers. Like I pointed out how he said, "rarely" to the question about organizing, and her eyeballs almost rolled out of her head.

She started going on and on about how disgusting my room was as a child, and how every time she wanted me to clean my room we had to have another discussion about HOW cleaning is carried out (I really didn't understand the process very well), and how she had to take pictures of it and show them to me just to get me to "see" the mess, etc., etc.

She said, "You tell that doctor who spent more time with you, and who had to deal with the school when they called home!"

...I mean, I KNOW that at least a few of my dad's answers are REALLY off. More than the whole issue of how this confounds diagnosis, I'm upset over the fact that he CAN answer this way, after living with me for 18 YEARS.

*sighs*

Hi, by the way! *sheepish* You seem to be feeling a bit better...?

[haleth.livejournal.com]

(((Dan)))

*shrugs* More stable, anyway. Not happy. Wah.

[siegeengine.livejournal.com]

sad :(
Seems almost like the "RARELY" applies more to his paying you any attention rather than the actual questions asked.

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

Guh! LJ isn't emailing comments to me!

And yes - it does, doesn't it? Not necessarily his fault: Mom says he was always away on business trips when I was a kid, which may be why he can't remember. I didn't remember that at all, but she says that especially in the winter (half the school year!) he was gone 3 or more weeks out of four.