Blinded by the light of flashbulbs...
Aug. 11th, 2002 08:28 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
beandelphikiSo this was inspired by ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
aerindipity's post about lj etiquette here.
I'll state right off that I strongly dislike being dropped. Actually, that's not true: I HATE being dropped. Again, I compare this to real life: if a friend you'd made in real life suddenly stopped hanging around you, you'd think they were a real chump, yes?
But just because they are your friend doesn't mean that they have to hang around you constantly. I know there are people on my friends list who rarely read anything I have to say, and that's okay with me. As long as I occasionally get your input, I don't mind if you're usually too busy to comment on my life.
It's now gotten to the point (as I mentioned) where it is impossible for me to read everything. And, in truth, maybe I never wanted to read everything. Does that mean I think some people I've added back aren't interesting? No.
See, I believe - I see - that everyone has their "moments." Moments when they say something startling, something that makes you think, or makes you laugh. Moments that make nearly every journal worth reading, really; and although I've found one or two journals without those "moments" (that I could see), thank god, they would never add me, anyway. Even if they don't have those moments in journals, maybe they have them in real life? I'll give the benefit of the doubt.
Really, none of us can be interesting all the time. I know I'm sure not. I have some truly pointless, frivolous posts; pointless even to me, sometimes. But I'm sure (much as my inner critic would like to disagree) that I have my moments, too. That's what we read people for, and everyone has them. That's my view. I read everybody who adds me back (when I can) and I, like everyone else, read YOU for your moments.
The trap we fall into is when we try to manufacture those moments. And when they won't come, we feel guilty or dull. At least, I do.
They can't be manufactured. I feel pity for those folks I call "lj celebrities" who everyone calls "brilliant!" Do you want someone spreading the word about you? Do you want a 700+ friends-of list? Do you really? Do like the idea of that much pressure, to be witty all the time? Look atgod_dot_com. Look at how many people complain lately that he's not funny enough, as if he were put on this earth to entertain the masses. He wasn't. Neither was I. Neither were you.
Do you want to be famous? No? Then go post a quiz, or something.
aerindipity's post about lj etiquette here.I'll state right off that I strongly dislike being dropped. Actually, that's not true: I HATE being dropped. Again, I compare this to real life: if a friend you'd made in real life suddenly stopped hanging around you, you'd think they were a real chump, yes?
But just because they are your friend doesn't mean that they have to hang around you constantly. I know there are people on my friends list who rarely read anything I have to say, and that's okay with me. As long as I occasionally get your input, I don't mind if you're usually too busy to comment on my life.
It's now gotten to the point (as I mentioned) where it is impossible for me to read everything. And, in truth, maybe I never wanted to read everything. Does that mean I think some people I've added back aren't interesting? No.
See, I believe - I see - that everyone has their "moments." Moments when they say something startling, something that makes you think, or makes you laugh. Moments that make nearly every journal worth reading, really; and although I've found one or two journals without those "moments" (that I could see), thank god, they would never add me, anyway. Even if they don't have those moments in journals, maybe they have them in real life? I'll give the benefit of the doubt.
Really, none of us can be interesting all the time. I know I'm sure not. I have some truly pointless, frivolous posts; pointless even to me, sometimes. But I'm sure (much as my inner critic would like to disagree) that I have my moments, too. That's what we read people for, and everyone has them. That's my view. I read everybody who adds me back (when I can) and I, like everyone else, read YOU for your moments.
The trap we fall into is when we try to manufacture those moments. And when they won't come, we feel guilty or dull. At least, I do.
They can't be manufactured. I feel pity for those folks I call "lj celebrities" who everyone calls "brilliant!" Do you want someone spreading the word about you? Do you want a 700+ friends-of list? Do you really? Do like the idea of that much pressure, to be witty all the time? Look at
god_dot_com. Look at how many people complain lately that he's not funny enough, as if he were put on this earth to entertain the masses. He wasn't. Neither was I. Neither were you.Do you want to be famous? No? Then go post a quiz, or something.
