Grr. Stab 'im wit a rusty spork!

One of the people on my friends list recently posted about raising money for top surgery. Common problem. Always a pain coming up with several thousand dollars, isn't it?

Someone responded (anon! no name!) to say that they are a non-op trans guy and maybe he'd be better off not getting surgery at all?

Fine, nothing wrong with that. But then this commenter went on with what a mess chest surgery results in, allusions to horror stories, "and it leaves a big dent in your side," yada yada...Jesus H. Christ! What the fuck is this guy's problem?!?

Now, I don't consider comments like this mine to respond to. It's not my journal, not my chest, not my life. But, boy, had that comment been in MY journal...!

I checked back to see the response, and I must say I never would have had the patience to answer that comment so calmly and politely. In fact, I'm sure I would have done my level best to rip that commenter into a thousand pieces.

My question is....how can people be so fucking thoughtless?

There are things I think it is "safe" to post your opinion on frankly. Nobody goes and commits suicide or something because another person doesn't agree with, say, their political viewpoint. But it is not right, IMHO, to go telling horror stories about SRS to trans people. ESPECIALLY if you don't know that person.

Being trans is fucking hard enough. There are people who are in very fragile emotional states about transition, and they are online. Most importantly, they are there for support. Carrying horror stories with no real reason to think they will be received well, and just to prove your point isn't helpful, it's SICK.

I'm not trying to say there is anything WRONG with being non-op...please don't misinterpret this. Were we all so lucky to make peace with our body. But there are other ways this guy could have presented his view.

If that comment had been in MY journal, say, a year ago (not that I had an lj a year ago, but we'll pretend) I probably would have considered suicide upon reading it.

Why don't people THINK?

Ooooh!

Funniness:

I just spotted a gay personals ad that read as follows:

Hi guys! I have a strong fetish for mens BARE/SOCKED FEET LEGS AND
ONLY! NO SEX! NO RECIPROCATION!

YOU: 30 - 60 years old or theareabouts, living or visiting the
greater Houston, Texas area... Etc.



...or thereabouts? Or THEREABOUTS?

Question

For those of you with free accounts, or accounts originally created with a code...

Do you ever wonder if the person who gave you a code regrets it?

Guilty Pleasures

Obviously, I have to jump on the bandwagon, and do this too. (Stolen from endogenousardor

( Guilty Pleasures )