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beandelphikiSo, I told my mom about ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
siegeengine and haleth today, since we went out for lunch after my ortho appointment, and we had time to talk.
It didn't go over like fireworks, or anything, but it went okay.
I think a transcript is probably the easiest way to explain how it went.
Me: So, I'm kinda...with someone...
Mom: Okay.
Me: Online.
Mom: Okay...I can see that making things difficult. I mean, if you can't SEE each other...physically...on a regular basis.
Me: Well, I don't know about that. I know a lot of people in our program have broken up because they can't see each other in real life, anyway. Because of how demanding the program is. The ones that have internet access last longer, because you can talk to each other that way, and send messages. Otherwise, you might not talk for weeks and weeks.
Mom: I suppose that's true.
[silence]
Mom: So, where do they live?
Me: Um, California.
Mom: Ouch. How old are they?
Me: ..........um. 34.
Mom: ...
Me: *shrug*
Mom: ...Dan! Dan...you DO know they're old enough to be your PARENT?!
Me: Yeah, right, only if they had a kid in HIGH SCHOOL, MOM!
Mom: Do you know how many of my friends DID?
[silence]
Mom: That IS quite an age gap, sweety.
Me: Yeah, well...I know.
Mom: Do they...know how old you are?
Me: *facepalms* MOM! Of course!
Mom: *shrug* Well...okay...just checking.
[silence]
Me: It's...polyamorous.
Mom: *raises eyebrows*
Me: Yeah. See, they're...married.
Mom: *LOOK*
Me: Um. I guess you don't know what polyamorous means, then.
Mom: Yes, I do.
...
*connection* Is this Frank and Ann Marie?
Me: Yes. We're - um, we've worked it out.
Mom: Okay.
[silence]
Mom: You know, Heinlein was in support of polyamory, I think. A lot of his characters had different...arrangements. And he made some good practical points, about how it made sense for exploring space. Much more sense than the traditional nuclear family. See, if someone is killed, there's a larger family that can still look after the kids!
Me: *private boggle* Um...that's...cool.
[If she's mentioning Heinlein, it must be okay. It means she's in one of her "the world has such possibilities" moods.]
Mom: But Dan...if anything intimate happens, make sure your sister doesn't see it, okay?
Me: *dies* ...right.
There was a bit more, stuff about phone rates and whatever, but that's all technical details.
So then we went off and looked at Valentine's stuff before we dropped off the groceries. We found the funniest ever: monkey things that hold hearts..they're sitting inside cages, and they vibrate and sing "Wild Thing." *laugh*
And she bought me the ENTIRE box set of HP books! Now I don't have to borrow from Nicole. *happiness*
And it's looking good that my braces may come off this year.
A good day, so far.
I guess I should think about eating and whatnot.
siegeengine and haleth today, since we went out for lunch after my ortho appointment, and we had time to talk. It didn't go over like fireworks, or anything, but it went okay.
I think a transcript is probably the easiest way to explain how it went.
Me: So, I'm kinda...with someone...
Mom: Okay.
Me: Online.
Mom: Okay...I can see that making things difficult. I mean, if you can't SEE each other...physically...on a regular basis.
Me: Well, I don't know about that. I know a lot of people in our program have broken up because they can't see each other in real life, anyway. Because of how demanding the program is. The ones that have internet access last longer, because you can talk to each other that way, and send messages. Otherwise, you might not talk for weeks and weeks.
Mom: I suppose that's true.
[silence]
Mom: So, where do they live?
Me: Um, California.
Mom: Ouch. How old are they?
Me: ..........um. 34.
Mom: ...
Me: *shrug*
Mom: ...Dan! Dan...you DO know they're old enough to be your PARENT?!
Me: Yeah, right, only if they had a kid in HIGH SCHOOL, MOM!
Mom: Do you know how many of my friends DID?
[silence]
Mom: That IS quite an age gap, sweety.
Me: Yeah, well...I know.
Mom: Do they...know how old you are?
Me: *facepalms* MOM! Of course!
Mom: *shrug* Well...okay...just checking.
[silence]
Me: It's...polyamorous.
Mom: *raises eyebrows*
Me: Yeah. See, they're...married.
Mom: *LOOK*
Me: Um. I guess you don't know what polyamorous means, then.
Mom: Yes, I do.
...
*connection* Is this Frank and Ann Marie?
Me: Yes. We're - um, we've worked it out.
Mom: Okay.
[silence]
Mom: You know, Heinlein was in support of polyamory, I think. A lot of his characters had different...arrangements. And he made some good practical points, about how it made sense for exploring space. Much more sense than the traditional nuclear family. See, if someone is killed, there's a larger family that can still look after the kids!
Me: *private boggle* Um...that's...cool.
[If she's mentioning Heinlein, it must be okay. It means she's in one of her "the world has such possibilities" moods.]
Mom: But Dan...if anything intimate happens, make sure your sister doesn't see it, okay?
Me: *dies* ...right.
There was a bit more, stuff about phone rates and whatever, but that's all technical details.
So then we went off and looked at Valentine's stuff before we dropped off the groceries. We found the funniest ever: monkey things that hold hearts..they're sitting inside cages, and they vibrate and sing "Wild Thing." *laugh*
And she bought me the ENTIRE box set of HP books! Now I don't have to borrow from Nicole. *happiness*
And it's looking good that my braces may come off this year.
A good day, so far.
I guess I should think about eating and whatnot.
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**wiggles and jiggles in impatient glee**
Date: 2003-02-07 03:56 pm (UTC)Re: **wiggles and jiggles in impatient glee**
Date: 2003-02-07 11:00 pm (UTC)I'm just usually so tired when I get home at night to do something like email. I will respond eventually, though. Unless you want me to reply here.
Re: **wiggles and jiggles in impatient glee**
Date: 2003-02-07 11:02 pm (UTC)Re: **wiggles and jiggles in impatient glee**
Date: 2003-02-07 11:35 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-02-07 05:31 pm (UTC)*big huge hugs*
*leaps on you and smothers you with kisses*
Oh.. my.. god.
You are so brave.
*stares at you with admiration*
I could never tell my mom anything like that. I would just die.
*boggles me'self*
Wow... that is so totally cool.
I can't believe it.
I've been having panicky nightmares about meeting your parents. In my mind, it's been going like this:
Me: Hello...
They: Hello.
...
*They - call the police*
That's pretty much as far as I got.
Wowowowowowo!!!!! hehehe omg I am so totally shaking, still, from reading that. I just went line by line and I was so afraid to read each line. Wow!!! *snuggles and snogs*
Wow!
I just sent you a card, too! ;) and I was worried because it was in a pink envelope, so I thought that it might raise a few eyebrows.... And then, the post office guy said the "love" stamp was just the right postage, so we used that. ;)
Oh, and when you get it? It's sealed with... like... a hundred big kisses. I almost couldn't send it off, I had kissed it so much. It seemed like the envelope and I had developed a relationship, or something... :)
Hee!!! OMG.
I have to stop because I'm at work....
I'll Wow some more in a while...
Love you very much!!!!
me
Oh, and omg I didn't know she knew we existed, much less our names!
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Date: 2003-02-07 05:59 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-02-07 06:27 pm (UTC)Fantastic, Dan! :)
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Date: 2003-02-07 06:30 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-02-08 01:03 am (UTC)